Fair warning: If you ever ask me the title of my favorite
book, movie, or song, prepare to get a list.
I simply love a good story. You
may be able to get me to narrow my “favorites” list by sticking to a genre, but
it will still be a list. Well, unless
you ask me about horror movies…there is no list of great horror movies in my
world.
You see, all
great stories are able to suck us into whatever emotion or conflict it is
exploring.
*Have I
mentioned that I am an emotional girl?
Quick…name the artist who sang that song! J
No, really, my cousin (you know who you are!) and I (along with a lot of
other Reed’s) got stuck with a high emotion gene. We feel joy, sorrow, fear, hate, etc.
deeply. We are the ones crying at
commercials, or ready to fight battles on behalf of those we love. It doesn’t take much to get to us
emotionally. Heck, that unnamed cousin
and I can see the other one crying, and start crying in support of the other’s
tears. It’s sad really.*
I regress…great
stories suck us into the emotion and conflict the characters in the book or
movie are experiencing. We get to
experience pain, fear, rejection, betrayal, and revenge through these
characters, and then we get to see how they are going to respond to said
tragedy. Do they seek revenge? Get mad at God for their lot in life? Go on living with bitterness and resentment? Do they let the fear of repeating their past
mistakes or hurt control their current and future decisions on loving again, or
living a full and productive life? Or,
do they battle on through life with courage, kindness, and love?
Reaction: action
in response to some influence or event
Yup,
reactions…mine in particular; have been on my mind lately. I don’t know about you, but I don’t always
respond or react in a positive or helpful manner. I know that at times I have momentarily, and
in some cases, for long seasons, let bitterness, vindictiveness and fear
control my life. Or maybe something small
irritates me or hurts my feelings, and I throw out a bit of sarcasm or a
cutting remark.
Fear: a distressing emotion aroused by impending
danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; something
that causes feelings of dread or apprehension; anticipation of the possibility
that something unpleasant will occur.
Fear has
controlled far too much of my life in the past.
I think broken dreams, particularly long standing hopes and dreams we
have held that we either actively participates in destroying, or feel like we
had no control over, create a particular fear of repeating the mistake, or a
fear that our new life will not produce a story as great or better than the
original dream we had. At least this has
been the case in my life.
My heart’s
deepest desire was to create a solid and lasting nuclear family. Imagine my distress and despair when I then
felt that divorce was my only viable option.
Even knowing deep down in my soul that divorce was the best decision I
could make within my circumstances, my decision to divorce, has come with much
grieving…sometimes daily (and it’s been 5 years!). While I did grieve over the loss of my
relationship with my husband, my biggest struggle with grief has been about the
loss of the story I wanted for my life, and the broken promise I made to God to
love, cherish, and respect this man for the rest of my life.
The real
kicker is that I don’t want fear to control my life or my choices. I want to be able to step into new
relationships and situations with courage.
I want to trust that God’s story for my life is greater and bigger than
the one I had dreamed up…even if my story includes a bit of brokenness and a
hardship or two. I want to enjoy the
chapter of life I am currently living, while anxiously awaiting the next
chapter I’m being prepared for. Instead
of having feelings of “this is NOT my story,” I want to embrace the
interruptions and course corrections of my life with joy and hope for the
future, realizing that sometimes my plans are derailed in order to relocate me
to the places I need to go.
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